Zodica Best and Worst Relationship Matches

Zodiac Signs:

• Capricorn December 23 – January 20
• Aquarius January 21 – February 19
• Pisces February 20 – March 20
• Aries March 21 – April 20
• Taurus April 21 – May 21
• Gemini May 22 – June 21
• Cancer June 22 – July 22
• Leo July 23 – August 21
• Virgo August 22 – September 23
• Libra September 24 – October 23
• Scorpio October 24 – November 22
• Sagittarius November 23 – December 22

Capricorn

Managed and defined by Saturn, the Capricorns in your life may be extremely prone to the view life the same way that Saturn orbits the sun, slowly with one foot in front of the next. They are planners and note takers, depending on the old time adage, “hope for the best and plan for the worst!” Does this sound like the stuff of boring evening at home planning out the next twenty years? Maybe so, but as you maybe already know, or will hopefully find out, when push comes to shove and when the mud really starts to fly, those plodding flatfooted Capricorns will be right behind your supporting you and struggling to achieve whatever struggle you find yourself engaged in.

This also translates into a partner that will work tirelessly to makes sure that relationships are worked at. He/she will never just let things go, they will strive to make the partnership that you two are building mean as much to them as any of the other parts of their life that are important to them. They will make time to talk about feelings and will always own up to times when they have been inconsiderate.

*** Note: in the same vein though, make sure that you apologize for any slights that you may have leveled on your Capricorn. These members of this zodiac sign are known for their tyrannical response to injustice or insults.

Your partner may be a bit of a self martyr, and since they value hard work and a “by the bootstraps’ work ethic, you may be in for a bit of finger wagging from time to time. This is a curse and a blessing, since it can become a strain on any relationship to have one partner telling the other where their faults are and how they can become a better person, but it is also a true and caring demonstration of their love. They do truly want for you to become better at what you do, and feel as if anything is possible, if you just work hard enough.

Now for the fun part. Both the terms bacchanalia a saturnalia are derived from aspects of the Capricorns mythological origins. Both of these terms are in reference to a wild abandon that can pervade your normally pragmatic way of life. These expressions of joy can be a double edge sword. Because of the restraint and discipline that you normally show on a day to day basis, this localized party time can result in overdoing it a bit! And though usually all that means is that you have a hangover and a few funny stories it can also lead to more sinister path. It can be hard on relationships and sometimes can lead to cheating or other types of infidelities with a partner.

***Note: Partners of Capricorns are encouraged to observe whether partying is a release from the pressure that their lovers put on themselves or a healthy channeling of stress. Makes sure they are not running from the cage that they have built themselves.

Capricorns can often be afraid of a lot of things. Among these objects of fear can be that of poverty. This can lead to over working and obsession with advancement. It can also mean that they never live in the moment and are always planning and planning and saving. This can be a desperate cycle. It is an important job of a Capricorn’s lover to make sure that they can see the trees and not just the forest. In compensation for some of the hard work of keeping the pessimism and cynicism at bay Capricorns are known to be great lovers. Their relationship to their earth sign means that they can be incredibly sensual and tactile. They enjoy being touch, so touch them and pleasure will ensue.

Best Relationship Matches

Cancer though your opposing sign, is likely to be your most fitting partner. Their goals run congruent with your. They can understand your sacrificial brooding side but their general outlook on life is more supportive, caring, and ultimately, more positive.

Taurus Their loving nature will cheer you up and encourage you. (Earth sign as well!)

Virgo They understand your perfectionism to a tee, and will work harmoniously with you to achieve it, especially in a business partnership. (Earth sign as well!)

Worst Relationship Matches

Aries Too impatient and impetuous for your slow-climb approach to life,

Gemini Too whimsical and has no regard for your ideals.

Leo Too outgoing for you to trust.

Sagittarius Complete opposite you would never see eye to eye on anything.

Aquarius

If the roots of most relationship problems are derived from irreconcilable arguments and petty disagreements, then dating an Aquarian lover may be a sweet relief. Represented by water and having a planetary ruler which combines Saturn’s level-headedness with Uranus’ unconventional modernity, Aquarius is a sign that is willing to compromise their logic but not their uniqueness. This means that Aquarius has the important distinction of being a person that can back down in an argument if they feel that they are wrong. Lover’s can rejoice in the easygoing nature that their Aquarian lovers possess.

Despite of the more cool and logical world that the Aquarian inhabits, they are ready to kick up their heels and get down for an evening on the town. Uncomfortable in more one on one situations where their emotional side my be left exposed and sensitive, your water lover may shy away from that type of internal exposure and trade it for a fun and “life of the party” personality. They are dynamic and interesting, and it is more useful to avoid pushing them to cry on your shoulder when hard things happen, or sit quietly discussing their emotions, but engage them on an active level. This will give them a chance to connect with you on a less risky level.

In light of this primarily lived in the exterior life, the fear of rejection can be an overwhelming fear for some Aquarians. This can mean that those under the affectionate glare of an Aquarius, will probably be completely unaware of the attention. Your Aquarian is a little bit deficient in the _expression department, and can sometimes be tempted to EWD (email while drunk), against the advice of their friends, or use other alternate forms of communication to convey their feelings, while avoiding face to face dialogue at all cost. This may seem charming at first but can lead to disaster, since all the cute and charming advances using beanie babies, or elaborate floral arrangements can only bring you so close to the door, in the end you have to step through it.

**A hint to those interested in Aquarian men or women: Reach out and touch someone. Seriously, don’t wait for them to make the first move, you won’t be disappointed but you will be waiting a long time if you choose to force them to make the first move.

Despite their incommunicado behavior, the Aquarian is ready to kick ass and take names. Born with the fighting instinct as a natural part of their character, the need to take on causes and to lead the charge toward change, can many times translate into a fierce desire to see their lover succeed. They can be like a cheerleader, pom-poms in hand, secretly directing the movement of all those around their loved one, so as to ensure success. But beware of the Aquarius’ inner leader, since organizing lovers and friends can lead to relationships feeling out of balance and may cause people to draw away from you.

One of the really important things to avoid allowing the Aquarius sign to do is become overly cold and removed. The internal life and intellectual pursuits that follow Aquarius can be an isolating factor rather than a liberating influence. Make sure that you make your partner do things that engage and involve them in the real world. If they have been hurt before, show them that they can trust you, and if they are afraid of being hurt, assure them that it is simply part of life.

Best Relationship Matches

Gemini Has a deep love for unpredictable adventure, and can understand the conflict and the heart of your character.

Libra Will love your beauty and sensuality as much as you love theirs. Libra will also understand your desire to be alone.

Worst Relationship Matches

Taurus Need more stability and less intensity

Cancer More homebound and less prone for your adventurous

Virgo They need too much order for your lifestyle

Pisces

You are the artist, the dreamer, the enigmatic lover of all things ethereal. It is why of all the signs you may be the hardest to pin down, but once love sinks its teeth into you, your heart turns to mush and the Piscean mind which floats around so airily, lights of fire with passion and romance.

The Pisces can’t help but be an empathetic creature. They are always reaching out and if they touch you, their caring and sympathy can be infectious. It is why developing crushes on Pisces can be both rewarding and dangerous, and why being in relationships with them can be exactly the same. Their two sides can drive even the most accommodating lover insane but they can also find the right words to say when none seem to be appropriate.

Despite the Piscean ability to appear almost psychic they happen to be the only water sign that doesn’t have a shell (the others are Cancer and Scorpio). The fact that they live so much in their minds means that even the littlest comment, or offhand remark that seems to be directed at them, can completely unhinge them. This can make boy/girlfriend tiffs even more difficult since the ramifications of the standard relationship insults can have much more disastrous effects than anticipated. It is also good to remember that when starting to date, or even flirt with a Pisces, to make sure that only your best intention find their way to the surface and that any nefarious plans stay buried so deep that you don’t even know them.

If your Pisces feels threatened they will disappear. They can blend into walls, or bars, and like a chameleon they will make themselves scarce. In addition to this great invisibility to trick they can also give off such a mask of inapproachability that no one even wants to talk to them. This can also ward off unwanted romantic attention, but it can also prevent Pisces from the romance they desperately need in their lives.

***Hint to those interested in a Pisces: Don’t be off put by their standoffish nature, and pursue them gently but persistently, chances are you have nothing to with their flaky mood.

Because of the volatility of the Piscean personality and the sensitivity of their more spiritual and emotional personality they need a strong balancing force. This means that they tend to have a deeply important friend or relative or even a therapist, in their life, and that means that being in a relationship with a Pisces means accepting the other close connections that they have in their lives. If you learn to utilize and understand these connections they can work to help your dating and loving a Pisces, if you don’t and are threatened or suspicious of these people in his/her life, it will wreck your chances.

When starting to woo a Pisces it is important to remember that even though you may find them at first to be difficult to make decisions with, and usually have no idea what they feel like eating, or which movie they want to see, they are incredibly adaptive. Instead of constantly looking for their input it is important to use suggestion to tease out their wants and desires. They usually will love what you want and can be convinced to try any new food and watch anything, as long as it is short on violence and long on fun, thoughtful entertainment.

Best Relationship Matches

Virgo That ideal mate is your zodiacal opposite, but it is important to find a Virgo who is attenuated to your more soulful presence, and then you have someone who will pay the bills, and clean the house etc.

Cancer You water sign relatives will understand your deep emotional nature, and support you with his or her strength.

Scorpio Same as above, except they may wander off sooner rather than later.

Worst Relationship Matches

Aries Too aggressive and harsh for your soft nature

Gemini Too easily distracted and not sympathetic to your needs

Leo Easily led by them, but easily cast aside

Aries

Aries, as is well known, is not the Tom-Jones-slick-satin-bathrobe-wearing-lounge-lizard of the world’s lovers. Instead, whether man or woman, Aries is a contradiction of competing energies, which can lead to great passions and enduring relationships, or it can stagnate and leave you home, making candy apples with your mom.

In many ways it is the visceral or physical way that Aries tend to enjoy the world that creates the serious deficits (or excesses) in your production of pimp juice. Arians approach love like they approach most things in their fiery lives, with passion and intensity, but since this strength of conviction and certainty of action is usual realized by doing as opposed to thinking, the more subtle parts of the your life can be underdeveloped.

This intensity is most readily seen in the initial stages of a relationship with an Arian. Since they are always ready to start a new adventure they are often some of the most romantic people on earth, as they jump head first into the fresh newness of an early romance. Watch out for big bouquets of flowers, and fancy bottles of wine served with delicious meals, and then a drive along the water, these are the trappings of an Aries fantasy at work. This can be a real blessing or it can also be the superficial heat of a jet’s after burner; the heat may be intense but it also may be short lived.

***Caution to potential partners of Aries: Don’t let your own potentially playful attitude towards competition blur the fact that your Fiery lover is not one to take a challenge lightly and will constantly accept any gauntlet thrown at his/her feet. In fact the blind competitive nature of the Aries can mean a narcissistic streak that can prevent Aries from knowing when they are hurting people.

Another aspect of the Aries’ approach to relationships is their inherent desire for adventure. So when they catch their prey (you) they sometimes have no idea what to do with you. Like a cat who knows he is supposed to catch a mouse, but since he has never been shown how to eat one, the Aries can be confused by some of the more mundane parts of the day-to-day relationship struggles. This is where the competitive struggle can come in handy. The Aries is likely to sense that some hard work can make this work smoothly, and will dig in and rise to the challenge.

For the Aries out there embrace your fire, and good things will come, deny it and only the negative aspects of your sign will be allowed to rise to the surface. Many women Aries find themselves living in a world that does not allow, or at least does not respect the qualities that define their sign. Joan of Arc was an Aries and look what the men of the church did to her. Love yourself and embrace the things that make you independent and important.

***For those of you stuck with a love-on for an Aries or even just a crush, don’t play games, they will go right over his/her head. If you want something, ask, they’ll appreciate it, and you will get what you want in the end.

Best Relationship Matches

Leo/Sagittarius Both the fire sign share a lot in common.

Libra An excellent match of opposites, however the marriage of too different planets, Mars and Venus, can sometimes be volatile.

Worst Relationship Matches

Pisces Too sentimental for you

Gemini Too much bickering

Virgo Too fussy for you

Taurus

Much of everything that you ever wanted to know about your Taurus lover is constituted by his/her relationship with Venus, Taurus’ planetary ruler. Contrary to the more commonly held perception of the Taurus being extremely reliable, stable, solid and perhaps a bit stuffy, Taurus can be extremely sensual, especially when you chuck him/her into the emotional blender. Once the more romantic aspects of the bull’s sun sign kicks into high gear you will be surprised by the physical intensity of the relationship, and you may, in fact, be overwhelmed with the tactile way in which your lover shows you affection.

We can see this side of Taurus in other aspects of the bull’s personality. Usually people born under this season of the sun cycle have a great desire for simply physical pleasure, and you may have noticed comfortable furniture, nice beverages and food filling their fridges and adorning their living rooms. They are connected closely to the ears, neck and larynx, and as a result enjoy beautiful music, good conversation and the touch of loving hands.

The most important thing to remember if you are dating, making love to, or in a long term, full fledged relationship, with a Taurus, your affection is best expressed through the same mode that your lover enjoys other parts of his/her life, with simply expressions of sensual enjoyment. Touch them, instead of saying something sweet! Instead of a book, get them wine, instead of art, give them a massage. Make love to them when they least expect it, and sit them down for their favorite meal. This will seal the deal, and create a loyal, caring, and delicate lover.

There are a few drawbacks to having a Taurus lover in your life, and they begin with the communication difficulty that the bull can have. Though they like talking about philosophy, politics or their own particular interests, if the conversation turns toward more difficult subjects, such as problems in your relationship, or lack thereof, they may be unlikely to engage your concerns. This needs to be worked out with some very focused discussions of what Taurus’ view as unnecessary exchanges. If it is not practical then it is not something that they are interested in. A way to promote more dialogue is to sandwich the difficult stuff with a nice bottle of wine, or a good day on the beach, or any other hedonistic activities.

You may also have noted that bulls in your life can be moody and a bit withdrawn sometimes. This is closely linked to the their stubborn inability to ‘role with the punches.’ This is a very real part of a Taurus’ life. Make sure to encourage a more open-minded way of viewing the world, and you will help your boy/girl get out of the doldrums and into the bright sun of the world.

A word directly to those born under the Taurus sign: be careful not to see the special people in your life as part of your collection of ‘fun’ activities. A problem that can face you is seeing people in an instrumental way that can devalue the unique worth of each person in your life. This can be a more serious problem when it comes to people that you deal with romantically. Most people get tired of being treated like a pretty bubble that must be dusted occasionally, and even though you think you are showing the right amount of interest, you may find yourself alone wondering how it all went wrong. Remember, if you care for someone, their needs must be met even more aggressively than your own, and maybe they will reciprocate, and then everyone wines.

Best Relationship Matches

Scorpio Even though it can be intense and stormy, it will endure and bring great satisfaction.

Virgo/Capricorn Very stable and harmonious, though Capricorn is better for plutonic relationships.

Worst Relationship Matches

Aries Strong wills can bounce off each other and create stress, though it can work with more passive Taureans.

Sagittarius Too free spirited.

Gemini Too restless.

Gemini

Ah, the Gemini, witty and eloquent, the life of the party, and a great lover to boot .if you can keep him/her interested for long enough to settle down. Sometimes the Gemini in your life can be a humming bird, flitting from one interest to the next, and then they can be the serious intellectual, moving from one stimulating idea to the next with the ease of their own air sign. This means that as much they may want to be happy, the Gemini strives to bring discordant notes into harmony, disjunctive ideas into synthesis, and may even try to bring your, as they may perceive, jumbled existence into greater balance. This type of relationship can be fraught with all sorts of perils but can also be a great learning and growing experience.

One of the best parts of learning to love, or simply learning to be around a Gemini is knowing that they are the mimic of the horoscope’s cycle. They can be whatever you want them to be, and may in fact see what you are looking for in a lover and become that. They can be a roaring Leo, or a fiery Aries, a stable Taurus or a pensive Pisces. They can say all the right things and do the romantic dinners or long walks, if that is what you are looking for. This is why they have such great success with the opposite sex, and can attract the attention of even the most unlikely of personalities. It is important to remember that in spite of this great ability to adapt and change to meet the challenge of being your favourite lover, a Gemini is only mimicking and in the end you must love the curious mind, and schizophrenic behaviour that defines his/her life.

One of the Gemini’s biggest challenges and at the same time greatest attributes as a partner is their desire to understand how you tick (I can see Gemini’s partners, friends and lovers all shaking their heads right now in complete agreement). This requires lots of questions and investigation into your head and heart, which can satisfy most people deep seeded narcissism, but can also be a little unnerving. This curiosity is inextricably linked to a Gemini’s need to understand all the things around them. This understanding can end up meaning that once they feel as though they have you figured out, their interest may wane.

There are some dark sides to the Gemini character. Much of their weakness lies in shortness of their attention span. The love of new and shifting things can sometimes outweigh the importance of settling into a routine and enjoying the more familiar aspects of day-to-day existence. In short Gemini lovers can be heartbreakers. They go full tilt into love and then, when bored, can toss aside people without too much thought, moving on to something new and more exciting. These qualities can hurt those around them, and eventually leave them alone and wondering where all the people in their life have gone. Gemini’s tend to have high divorce rates precisely because of this tendency. Give them a chance and they will one-minute love the girl next door, and in the next moment run after the dominatrix with her whips and chains.

Give your Gemini lover a chance and they will keep you on your toes, but make sure that you stay true to your own nature and don’t bend too much or ask too little, or you may find yourself and the blinding will of their capricious nature.

Best Relationship Matches

Libra This is your best match. They have just enough in common with you and just enough that’s different.

Aquarius Just capricious enough for you.

Leo At first you may be attracted, but this pairing is ultimately unstable.

Worst Relationship Matches

Taurus Too slow for you

Cancer Too stable and domestic

Pisces Too emotionally needy you’d hurt them far too often

Cancer

Since the moon, which shifts, creates and signifies emotion, rules Cancer, then you can always expect your dealings with Cancerians to be filled with a certain level of intense investment. This investment will always come from the qualities that are inherent to their nature, such as fertility, domesticity and that overarching maternal (even you boys) instinct. The emotionality that seems to rule over this aspect of the sun sign, manifests itself in the stomach, via stomach aches and indigestion (the emotional barometer for humans), and in their tenacity for seeing things through and making sure that good is done.

The Cancerian is likely to be saving you from something, and even though you may not feel as though you need to be saved, your Cancer lover has an uncanny ability to sniff out unhappiness or dissatisfaction. If you are the not the focus of their altruistic imperialism then some other ’cause’ will adorn their spirit, which so thoroughly inhabits them. From the neighborhood kids, to sick animals, your Cancer partner is a hallmark card for all things nurturing or protecting. Though this can be distracting and perhaps a bit of an annoyance when every time someone needs change or a cat looks hungry, or even a distressed phone call from a friend, can interrupt an entire evening’s plans, it is important to remember that this is how Cancer deals with their emotional depth. Helping people or causes can serve to assuage the level of emotional distress that a Cancer feels at other’s pain. By allowing them the space to do what feels natural will mean that they take it out on you less.

The thin shell that is supposed to protect Cancer from external stimulus doesn’t always do such a great job, and thus their softer interior is often disturbed. It is for this reason that in matters of the heart you may never even see the Cancer sneak up on you. Because they, more than anyone else, are well aware of their propensity for emotionality, your Cancer lover may come from all directions but straight ahead. This is a protective measure, since head on confrontation and/or rejection is something that they will not deal with easily. Expect this behavior and it is much less disconcerting. Make sure to be ready and willing to interpret requests or suggestions that will not be completely obvious. Challenge yourself to think outside your normal emotional or intuitive parameters.

This will also allow you to know and understand that the Cancer in your life has had a lot of stress and perhaps a few whiskey-cigarettes-tears nights. This has driven a large amount of the empathy development in their lives, and they usually feel (and are mostly right) that this troubled past has them to believe that they know what others are going through during times of trouble.

They can fix things though, oh how they can fix things. Cancer is a handyman and as a result a nice home usually follows a Cancer around, and also provides great tools for good fathering or mothering. So if you are ready for a domestic life, keep that Crab in your life.

One of the drawbacks of having such a thin shell is that it can sometimes make you seem withdrawn and uncaring. This is especially true when it comes to those members of the Cancer crew that have been hurt particularly badly in the past. Their reluctance to express themselves with their feelings is simply a defense mechanism. An important thing to remember is that allowing your Crab lover to withdraw and not be their usual empathic self will help them charge their batteries after too much stress.

Avoid early marriage with Cancers, since it usually is the result of their over active nesting impulse. This can often result in a dramatic realization that they are not equipped to deal with the harsh demands of married life, and leads to high divorce rates.

***Important hint: Cancers may keep nostalgic things around them, picture albums, letters etc. Many times this can contain records of old lovers. It is important to remember that Cancers can feel very unsure of the future, and can be more comfortable leaving a piece of themselves in the past, for security’s sake. It is a good thing to keep remembering that you are the one that they are with, and not vice-versa.

Because of this penchant for living in the past, the Cancer that you are in a relationship with may have a problem remembering all the unkind or thoughtless things that he/she has done, but trust me, they have no problem remembering all the uncaring things that you have done. This selectivity can be very hurtful, and many times untrue. Encourage your lover to live in the present and resist the urge to only focus on the past.

Best Relationship Matches

Capricorn Before they work though, you need a few failed relationships, because they’re just as shy and just as driven. Once you reach your thirties and settle a bit, you’re home free.

Scorpio Their dominant nature fits well with your caring side.

Pisces They understand your depth of feeling like no other.

Worst Relationship Matches

Gemini They are too flighty for you.

Aries They are too bold and self-centered.

Sagittarius Despite an initial attraction, the wandering, popular Sagittarian may be too much for you to handle, and jealousy and rage are right around the corner.

Leo

Ah, the king of the jungle, in this the human, city jungle! Leo prowls his/her turf with the certainty of a born leader. Since Leo’s sign falls in the middle of the zodiacal calendar and, in North America at least, the hottest time of the year, it is obvious that Leo is ruled by the sun. Sitting at the center of any social, romantic or work-related situation the sun-as-center-of-the-universe is certainly true in this lion’s case. Aside from being at the center of everything Leo’s lovers stretch across a vast divide since the point of the Leo strength is to bring happiness to all members of the zodiac’s path.

If you have every dated a Leo, or if you have even ever simply bedded down with one, you will know a few things for certain: 1) They are the life of the party, 2) they will buy a round of drinks and then regale you with colorful stories, and finally if haven’t already noticed, they are hunting you. They will take aim and take you down, which means that they are highly driven and sufficiently motivated, and if you get in their cross hairs there is little chance of escape. But the great thing is that you don’t mind, because they allow you to bask in the glow of their aura, which bespeaks of a greatness that even the most uninitiated of us can’t ignore.

Your Leo lover is frank, and the what-you-see-is-what-you-get edict is usually in place. This means that they expect to be followed, and that when it comes to relationships they like to be in the driver seat. In much the same way as in a social situation, in a relationship a Leo will fight for dominance and then if he/she can’t establish their desired power dynamic (power being very important to the Leo) they will simply bow out, rather than let themselves exist in what they feel is a lesser relationship.

Clearly this can cause some discontent in any situation, and certainly is one of the biggest drawbacks to dating a Leo, since no one wants to feel as if they are working for their boyfriend/girlfriend, and usually the beginning of a completely untenable situation.

This desire for control also means that unforeseen change can be something that sticks in your lion’s jaw and can make him/her very irritable. Make sure to cushion any bad news or difficult let downs, with a gentle forthrightness and then let the Leo slink away to lick his/her wounds in private. Do not under any circumstances make a Leo’s hurt or failure public since it will be an unforgivable offence in their eyes.

You Leo will always abide by the maxim “to thine own self be true!” The will usually take responsibility for their own actions and expect you to do the same. This can mean that even if you didn’t mean to do it, don’t say it.

***If you are dating a Leo, or interested in one, it is valuable to note that despite all the posturing and chest puffing, that when I Leo loves you, it is true. Leo’s can be very good-natured and if they take a liking to you they will put everything they have into it. It is at this point that they are most vulnerable and can be taken advantage of. So do use their love against them or you may find yourself on the sticky side of some very uncomfortable flypaper.

One of the largest romantic drawbacks of the obsession with position and power is that it often means that Leo’s are relegated to casual sexual relationships. They tend to be unwilling to settle down since the sun that burns so deeply in them, allows them to feel the great warmth of “spreading the love” so to speak. They can become wrapped up in the performance and find it hard to settle down. Relationships also require a “give and take” type relationship, which relies on a relinquishing of power, so that harmony can be achieved. This can go against the very core nature of the Leo’s personality.

Let Leo’s age and this tendency will become less and less prevalent, as they realize that getting what they want inevitably requires compromise. And seriously let’s be honest, we all love the sun, but if you have ever been to the desert you know how, without the protection of shade, sun can be a real scorcher.

Best Relationship Matches

Aquarius They are your zodiacal opposite, but they can be your truest companion and there are surprisingly few conflicts that arise from their opposing natures. You prize your humanity, believe in the same ideals, and admire creative pursuits in different and complementary ways.

Aries and Sagittarius Your fire-sign relatives, are also natural companions, but on a more casual level.

Worst Relationship Matches

Gemini They’re mostly mind-oriented, you are all heart.

Capricorn You’ll overpower them, and they’re not likely to forgive your mistakes.

Pisces You’ll hurt them before you even realize it, and they’ll harbor a long resentment.

Virgo

The ever practical perfectionist Virgo celebrates their birthday during the same month that dictates the main motivating archetype of their personalities. End of August and beginning of September bring the largest harvest time on earth. This is a time of year that people gather and bring together all the hard work from the summer, and all the waiting from the previous winter. They go out into the fields and pastures as the summer light begins to ebb and the summer heat starts to wane. In the same way Virgo’s love to bring what seems to be chaos into synthesis, and create harmony when there is discord.

Ruled by Mercury, Virgo is a bit of a head over heart person, and yet, as previous Virgo lovers in my life have amply demonstrated, they allow their childhood to permeate the rest of their life, which imbues everything that they do with a profound level of wonder and excitement. In relationships the tension between intellect and wonder, can produce a dizzying display of conversationalism and an independent search for knowledge, that can either alienate you as a Virgo’s lover or bring you in so thoroughly that you could never imagine being with someone as interesting or as dynamic.

Your Virgo lover is not only shy but is extremely hard on his/her self, and that is a combination that can lead to some problematic personality traits. It can, at first, seem as though Virgo is completely detached, without emotion, and yet precisely the opposite is true. They are keenly sensitive, and this can be seen as any depth of relationship is explored between you and your Virgo lover.

This criticism is the basis of your lover’s most annoying personality trait: the external critic that exists in every Virgo. Despite your best attempts to let your partner know how much this type of nagging examination of all you faults, bugs you, they persist. It is as much a reflection of how incomplete they sometimes feel, and less about you. But it is something that will drive away not only casual relationships, but the meaningful ones as well.

Virgo has a hard enough time finding someone that they feel can even measure up to the harsh light of their ever evaluating third eye, but once they do find that special someone, the temptation can be to continue to perfect that person. As much as it is appealing to let Virgo take a red marking pen to your personality because you desire their love, it is important to remember that they are reflecting their own insecurities. In letting them continue this type of behavior you are reconstituting their own identity issues.

Don’t let Virgo fool you though. It is easy to mistake the shyness of the Virgo as aloofness, when really all it is that they are more comfortable with intellectualizing and dialoging than spilling their dark emotional secrets. It is for this reason that watching and touching them is the best way to create an intimate physical connection, rather than over eloquent speech. They want to be held when they need to feel loved, fed when they are hungry, and kissed when they feel passionate. They are an earth sign, and thus feel most at home with their five senses, so they are also known to be hot in bed.

***Warning, withholding of affection as a means to argue or get something from a Virgo, will inevitably backfire. Instead of motivating them it will reduce the reason that they want to do something for you in the first place. They will feel unloved when not touched, and they will lose interest in an attempt to protect themselves. Always bribe your Virgo with love and sex, never with negatives.

Best Relationship Matches

Pisces Though your natural opposite is also your most ideal partner. Every quality you lack is ample in Pisces, and vice-versa, so no problem in this marriage is unsolvable, and every day is interesting.

Taurus Has a big heart, while he/she waits for your headiness

Capricorn Both of you are perfectionists and can work extremely well together, bringing harmony to your worlds.

Worst Relationship Matches

Aries Too bossy and will not tolerate your pickiness

Libra Completely unable to take your criticism

Aquarius Both wrong and right, but if it’s wrong you both will be at each other’s throats

Libra

Above all the rest your Libra lover is the most passionate, the most comforting and the most amiable of the sun signs. It is just in their nature. It is likely that you were the wall flower and they approached you at the party. They struck up a conversation because they sensed in you a discontentedness, or alienation. It was their gentle and comforting way that appealed so quickly to your heart and then they attacked your head. This is the general pattern of the Libran lovers, to reach out for the emotional aspects in people, and yet because of their almost insatiable thirst for knowledge, you won’t get out of a relationship with Libra before demonstrating an interest in more scholarly parts of the world.

But don’t get too deep with a Libra, since they are one of the air signs, their attention can wane and be spotty at best. They love to delve into hobbies like a flash in the pan, hot and quick. This incessant need for variety can be a real strength or an incredible weakness. Be aware of this tendency and make sure that you can see the warning signs in your Libra. When their eyes start to wander change the subject, there is no point trying to force the issue with a Libra, since even if they wanted to keep going their mind may be forcing them in different directions than they want to go in. Try and flow with their mind and their desires, it is often interesting and always exciting.

The Libran is always very intuitive. They know when you are lying and they know when you are trying to conceal some emotion or anger. It is always recommended to be honest with a lover that sits inside of the Libran sun sign, since they have a built in lie detector and are always on the look out for deception. This intuition means strong paternal/maternal instincts and a great deal of empathy. They are constantly making sure that you are ok, and that everyone around them is having fun. Don’t expect to be able to hold on to your Libra at a party and though they will be regularly looking for you and peppering you with affection, their more emotional empathic side drives them around.

*** Note: If you are on the hunt for a Libra man or woman, don’t force things with them. Though being swept of one’s feet is always attractive, the Libra may have so much on the go that it is important to integrate yourself into their world initially. Don’t let this stop your from romance and spontaneity, just recognize when and how.

Balance is very important to Libras. They even have trouble making more mundane decisions as a result of this borderline obsession with fairness. They love to gather all the relevant information about a general situation and then carefully sift through it to come up with a point of view that takes into consideration all the valuable components of each side. This is a great quality, but can sometimes lead to insanity in Libra’s partners as even dinner plans can be fraught with crisis level decision making stress.

***Note: Just make those little decisions for them. If you can’t decide between Chinese and Thai, just figure out which one you would rather, and then make it happen. Don’t mistake this indecision for a desire to have all of their life decided by others. On the contrary, it is a good lover’s job to help Libra overcome the ineffectualness that can sometimes arise as a result of this personality trait. Don’t let them lose out on opportunities because they are so concerned with making the right decision that they make no decision.

You may notice that for some Libras, this striving for balance results in a real aversion to conflict. Don’t worry about their feelings though, they are more worried about hurting yours. They would much prefer to work out arguments with dialogue, and will usually only be satisfied when both sides are shown and each part of the disagreement in resolved.

The most obvious warning regarding pursuing a relationship with a Libra can be found in precisely the same place that their greatest strengths lay. Many times Libra can be found mired in a very real and difficult “love triangle.” This means that their hearts are truly divided, and thought they can’t make up their mind as of yet, the air aspects of their sign means that when they do, it may be made coldly and with a detached calculation. This can lead to broken hearts and deeply hurt feelings and despite the intuitive knowledge that a Libra has of other people, their self preservation is made manifest through this emotionally removed decision making process.

Don’t run away, just keep yourself protected until your Libran lover makes a decision, and trust me the wait is worth the reward.

Best Relationship Matches

Aries Is your ideal mate despite being your zodiacal opposite. It’s a great evening out of the Venus and Mars’ different qualities: aggression and tenderness, leadership and acquiescence, practicality and creativity.

Gemini They are able to appreciate your understanding of their complex character, and you’re artistically harmonious.

Aquarius You both love people and beauty, although they’re a touch more unpredictable.

Worst Relationship Matches

Virgo Too fussy for you.

Scorpio Too dark for your warm, sunny outlook.

Scorpio

One of the most rewarding and yet dangerous lovers to become involved with in the intense power the Scorpion Planetary alignment. Even though Pluto is a relatively new planet (in terms of our discovery of its strange elliptical orbit, which happened in 1930) its effects on Scorpio’s has always been there, quietly driving and defining their characteristics. There is debate around which of Scorpio’s planets has primacy, mars or Pluto, but the reality is that both the fire of mars and secret intensity of Pluto has great bearing on the interaction and personalities of your Scorpio lover.

One of the most obvious aspects of this tension is the way that Scorpios affect other people around them. If you haven’t noticed it yet, pay close attention to how others act around your Scorpio. He/she is the one at the bar with their arm around a complete stranger sharing a drink and talking of life, but at the same time they are evaluating and manipulating, drawing people into their inner circle quickly and efficiently. The opposite sex is always overly fond of your Scorpio and people in their life seem adopt their mannerisms and turns of phrase, without even really noticing it.

But here is key, the blending of intense social interactivity and secret internal intellect create a volcano-like rumbling, threatening to blow and destroy everything around them, and that unfortunately can include lovers and friends. It is important to stand back a bit when your Scorpio is in full tilt, because getting in his/her way can often lead to catastrophe. And don’t for one minute think that if your partner fails in their endeavor that they will be satisfied and give up, on the contrary the Pluto in their sign allows for a depth of understanding that will get back in the belly of the beast and retool whatever needs to be fixed and get back on course.

In spite of what seems a recipe for complete personality disaster when your Scorpio’s life is balanced with love and friendship the intense power and passion that are at their disposal can bring great happiness to everyone around them. This is the state that a good lover can bring to their Scorpio. It is in many ways the reason that throughout history Scorpio men are so associated with desirability. A lot of women out there, you all know who I am talking about, want to fix men in their lives, and strangely enough Scorpio men are one of the only sun signs that not only allow but also tend encourage this paradigm of help and helper.

But don’t betray them. Of all the signs they are the most vindictive, and they will wait patiently to exact their revenge. This is why it is so important to make sure that you are the right mate for a Scorpio, since even if they perceive a slight or a betrayal of trust they can fly off the handle, dropping into a deep state of depression, making everyone around them miserable. Cultivate a sense of trust and calmness in your Scorpio and the dividends will pay off huge.

Best Relationship Matches

Cancer Both of you have deep emotional wells underneath that hard surface, and are both water signs.

Virgo You admire each other’s work ethic, and the negative traits of both cancel each other out.

Pisces Although the attraction is immediate, it doesn’t last long the Piscean will become too possessive for you.

Worst Relationship Matches

Aries You must avoid the other Mars sign you’ll constantly fight over control of everything.

Gemini You’ll get jealous of their freedom.

Sagittarius Too flighty and untrustworthy this match is liable to bring out your darkest qualities.

Sagittarius

When the ruler of a particular sign is a big, imposing planet, as is the case with Sagittarius, it is obvious that they are positioned for big things. Since Jupiter, the largest of all the planets, is the planetary ruler of Sagittarius the most conspicuous quality that they will possess is “bigness”. It may sound silly but it truth this characteristic can be profoundly manifested in lots of aspects of your Sagittarian lover. Big Hearts, Big Heads, Big Games, Big Contradictions, these are all parts of the expansive nature of all the Sagittarians in our life. They dream in Technicolor and play on super sized jungle gym, and though they are sometimes unaware of the respect and loyalty that they command, we all know it and we can see it throughout our relationships with them.

You know why you feel for that Sagittarian in the first place. His/her head was being split open with new ideas and the size of their heart opened up wide and welcomed you into their world. There were no reservations about letting you in, and for the first time in a long time you felt like you belonged. There were no plastic coverings over the couches, so to speak, and nothing was hidden. That is one of the gifts of your Sagittarian lover, they are not secretive nor are they possessive. But they are extreme, so make sure that you take that into account when trying to handle them.

Sagittarius’ life lies between two primary bed rocks: Athleticism and intellectualism. The first means that rock climbing, going for hikes and generally engaging the more physical aspects of life may be the driving force behind your Sagittarius’ vision of the world, the second means that that long talks over wine, about philosophy and religion direct the interest of this more cerebral Sagittarius.

***Note: if you have a Sagittarius in your life it may be important to note which of the bed rocks your friend/lover stands more securely on. If they are of the intellectual persuasion their logical (Jupiter) nature will make them a formidable foe to argue against. Their arguments are usually well informed and beautifully constructed. Let them talk and if you disagree, wait till you see holes in their argument since a logical flaw will be most likely to induce reevaluation of their point of view. With the sportsman out there, just avoid physical competition. If they lose whatever game is being played they will hate it because they are perhaps a bit too competitive. They are usually the dirtiest, and most beat up at the end of whatever they are doing. Encourage, as their friend/lover, less result oriented physical endeavors.

Sagittarians are insecure and can be frustrated easily with details, social conventions and the general niceties of day-to-day existence. This means that your lover may tend to hide behind a penchant for debate, concealing their fears and lack of grace behind a fa ade of verbal warfare. This can be tempered by good life experience that teaches them to be proud of who they are, or the natural loudness and intensity of personality can ostracize them from more conventional social scenes.

Long lasting relationships can be difficult because it is hard for them to settle down and stay interested. Your Sagittarian lover may not return phone calls and often breaks dates. His/her impetuosity often leads to a inability to satisfy the more domestic needs of other people, and despite lots of opportunity for physical intimacy, relationships of a more permanent variety may have to wait until middle age, when the “great mellowing” occurs.

Best Relationship Matches

Gemini Since both of you are prone to “sample” partners in life the intensity may initially be there but it may not last.

Aries and Leo Both of these fire signs are compatible with you because of their innate understanding of your passions and interests.

Worst Relationship Matches

Taurus Too possessive, and who would want to limit your freedom

Cancer Too rooted in family stability for your tastes

Virgo Too critical of you, and your pride will not stand for that

Scorpio Although physically compatible, there is too much distrust and competition for dominance on both sides

Capricorn Too pessimistic for you